We’ve all heard of relationship red flags…..but have you heard of HAIR PRODUCT red flags? This sounds self explanatory, right? Well, it should be, but just like those relationship ones, they can be clear as day AND easy to miss. I call it “hiding in plain sight”.
So you’re ready to change your lifestyle
This week will be a little different from normal. We wont be talking specifically about hair.
So you’re ready to change your lifestyle?
I talk quite a bit about how hair and health are connected and i get countless inquiries on where to start when it comes to this. Whether its virtual or in person, i have many people that express that they are ready to change their lifestyle, not only so they can start to feel better, but because they want to see changes in their hair. Most believe that the place to start is FOOD! While that seems like the obvious answer, it is not always the case.
After being my own case study for the last 5 years or so, and working with clients. I have found that simply changing what I eat does not equate to a healthier lifestyle. In many ways, the negative coping skill are still there, but are manifested in other forms. I was still an emotional eater and didn’t know why. I lived in the mindset of all or nothing, I was obsessive, so i restricted my food, counted calories/macros/micros and sugar down to the gram, scrutinized my weight, i worked out like a maniac and after it all, and I isolated myself so that I wouldn’t be “tempted” to eat badly. I still wasn’t happy or healthy (mentally/emotionally) While my options, by way of food, may have been “healthier”, my behaviors and patterns were still toxic. On the outside, I looked really good and even felt good, physically. Unfortunately when I look back with more understanding eyes, none of it was for me. It was all to keep up appearances and once I started, I was afraid that if I fell off I’d be considered a failure and a fraud. I also felt like, at that point, its what people expected from me. Doing things for others and not myself has been a recurring pattern for me. And just because I was eating plant based, didn’t change that. Now, here I am, just about 6 years later, in therapy and feeling better than ever. And I havent had to count ONE single calorie to get here! Uncovering and dealing with certain issues and buried emotional trauma has been tough, but worth it.
Not addressing the psychological part of the lifestyle change can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. It also makes it easier to gravitate towards quick fixes and fad diets. In my coaching practices I encourage my clients to build a small network around them selves that help them to tailor a more customized approach to individual change.
Some of the professionals to consider in your network would be:
-primary medical doctor
When it comes to making lasting lifestyle changes or addressing certain habits/patterns/behaviors. It is extremely important to start with the MIND and to find out what your individual body needs to thrive. Understanding the psychology behind these things is what will help bring awareness to what you’re doing and hopefully lead to conscious decisions to make more lasting changes where applicable to your individual life.
Don’t let the world shame you into living off green smoothies and kale chips to solve all your health problems. Food, while its a good start, is not the only component to health and wellness.
As a stress, mindset and gut health coach. I can help point you in the right direction and offer weekly encouragement and accountability. Book your consultation today.
Oh My! Please DONT TRY! Part 2
Alright now! Last week we talked about Tessica Brown, AKA Gorilla Glue Girl and her series of unfortunate hair events. Fortunately, she was able to pull through and is now wearing her hair proudly.
She’s actually come out on top in multiple ways. She was able to fulfill her go fund me request, she was able to catch the attention of a renounced black plastic surgeon to take the time to remove the glue from her hair, she created some merch and recently she’s come out with a hair growth oil.
This is not to condemn her ingenuity and ambition. She took lemons and made sweet lemonade! And thats how America, works1
NOW! Lets talk a little about the marketing, science and the concept of hair growth oil.
Have you ever wondered why a certain angle or filter is chosen when it comes to selling products? Or have you ever analyzed word choices or placement? I’m sure you have.
Marketing is and will always be psychological. If it targets insecurity and pain points and makes indirect promises, we got a winner! “Hair growth” is already going to get your attention, it is the indirect promise that most are looking for win certain types of hair products. “OIL” is a buzzword for African American women. Oil has been a beloved and popular product for generations and has been given the power of healing. In Tessica’s video, there are a few marketing factors at play. Angle, placement, camouflage and of course, a filter. Everything plays a little game with the consumers mind.
Not to mention the fact that this product was developed so quickly.
The concept of hair growth oil and the science:
The idea that oil grows hair and has been around for generations upon generations. However, I’m not quite sure where the correlation actually came from. What proves that oil can make the hair grow? The answer is really, nothing. Nothing proves or disproves it on a surface level. But when you dig just a little deeper, that’s where understanding lies.
Many people believe strongly in this, I am here to offer a little food for thought when it comes to hair growth. And yes, i have become the proverbial broken record over the years, but it must be continually said.
Hair growth is a METABOLIC FUNCTION, which means it is intricately tied to how your internal body is working. All of the mechanics if your internal health directly effect the way your hair grows. Ok, when I say metabolic function, think about digestion, blood pressure, cholesterol and so on and so forth…. Those things are also metabolic functions and can be altered in various positive and negative ways, depending on predisposition and how you take care of your internal body.
Because hair growth is a metabolic function, that means that it will grow REGARDLESS of any “protective style” or oil application. On average, hair grows a 1/4 to a 1/2 an inch a month on its own. Now, there are ways that hair growth can be influenced negatively on an external level. Oil is often times used improperly on the scalp and creates build up in the follicles. This can cause SLOW hair growth or for a follicle to remain dormant for a while because a hair cannot protrude through. This is why it is IMPORTANT to shampoo your hair often and keep the scalp cleansed. If you or anyone else you know have experienced a bald spot, began to apply oil and saw growth. That is what i call coincidental. That hair would have grown with out the oil and thats because the follicles are still active and metabolically the body was able to produce hair.
Follicles can also experience scarring, if thats the case, then there’s nothing, internal or external, that can regrow the hair.
Don’t let the advertisements and “all natural” labels fool you. I think its great that Tessica has turned her lemon into lemonade, but its also good to understand what you’re actually working with.
Are you experiencing hair loss that you need help understanding? Book your hair loss consultation today!
Oh My, PLEASE DONT TRY!
We all remember our dear friend Tessica Brown! Earlier this year she had a little oops moment that landed her front and center on the social media stage and branded her with the unforgettable nickname “Gorilla Glue Girl”.
If you don’t know the story, here is the short version:
Back in January, Tessica got her hair done. She left the salon, rocking a really cute, sleeked back braided ponytail. She was lit! Fast forward a few weeks and she wanted to freshen her style up, but realized that she didn’t have her normal hairspray(Gots Ta Be Glued) in the house. That’s where things took a turn for the worst. Without thinking it through, she grabbed Gorilla Glue adhesive spray and proceeded to use it as hairspray. YIKES! About a month goes by and she surfaces on tiktok asking for help, as she realized that the spray she used in her hair had actually glued it down. As she was looking for help, she created a GoFundMe and was able to raise $20,000, eventually a Plastic surgeon got wind of her story and volunteered to help remove the glue from her hair surgically. The process was painstaking and her scalp suffered quite a bit of trauma, but she made it! Then, Tessica did what any true American would do and capitalized off of her 15 min. She made merch and as of late has come out with a Hair growth oil (which we’ll talk about in next weeks email).
Her story quickly became viral and in true social media form, the critics critiqued. I heard and read everything from “she’s stupid” to “this is just a publicity stunt”.
Now granted, I had my own opinion about the act itself and wondered how she could confuse Hairspray with Glue, however, I took a less harsh approach than some.
Everyone and I mean EVERYONE, has had a gorilla glue moment. What I mean by that is, consider a decision (or 2) you’ve made, that hasn’t been all the way thought through and it doesn’t become apparent until much later. A gorilla glue moment doesn’t even have to be hair related.
The difference between our moment and Tessica’s is simply the camera.
The other thing I thought about, was about how it seems that we are very determined to keep our styles for extended periods of time. Why? Does that say something about our society/culture and the way we feel about how we look? Ive been in the industry for a long time and have seen people ruin their hair with actual hair products, let alone something as serious as Gorilla glue. From Pump it up, to black hair glue build up stuck to the scalp and more. We place the “look” over the safety/health of the hair and scalp.
Lets not call Tessica stupid or even say she did it for publicity.. Instead, lets use her story and others alike, as a mirror and practice compassion.
Or at the very least, lets start separating the person from the behavior. She’s not stupid…but what she did(the behavior) may not have been smart.
What did you learn from Tessica’s story? What was your Gorilla Glue moment?
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By now you know that the average human sheds a total of 50-100 hairs a day.
But did you know that humans have a molting cycle? In addition to our regular daily shed. We also experience a seasonal purge of hair, and skin. Just like a dog, a cat, or even a snake. During this process you may notice a little more shedding than normal.
Environmental change can cause this purge, as well as weather and individual health. This process is completely natural and is the bodies way of shedding the old and making way for the new.
This type of shedding is normally diffused throughout the entire head and does not last an excessive amount of time. Once your body is done molting, you may see a growth spurt in your hair.
Some times you will shed more than normal and that doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. There are ways to determine if/when this is happening, but it may take a couple years to tune in to it.
Keep in mind that wearing “resting” styles can get in the way of learning what your body is doing. They mask your shedding and can also cause premature shedding. If you are trying to learn your body’s cycles and patterns, when it comes to your hair, it may take wearing it out and even keeping a daily hair log. You can track shedding patterns, growth spurts, stagnant times and what’s going on with your health and the environment during those times. It may be a tedious process, but can be done.
If you would like to take on this challenge, let’s set up a consultation to get you started.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
How many times have we heard this saying over the years? We hear it all the time when it comes to meal prep, business, fitness and anything else that is approached in a goal oriented way. I would like to present the same idea when it comes to your hair. Do you have any specific hair goals? Some people want to see how long their hair can get. Some people want color, some maintain relaxers and some want to maintain a particular style, but not necessarily length.
How do you achieve these goals? With a plan, of course!
Here are a few pointers for creating a plan that works for you:
1. Consult with a pro to find out what your hair and scalp need
2. Map out a few realistic goals for your hair
3. Consider your commitment level
4. Consider how your proposed plan factors into your lifestyle.
5. Decide if this will be an in salon process or home based process
6. Once you commit to something that seems right for you, remember to follow through. Optimal results come when you go ALL in!
Patience is key when it comes to achieving these goals.
Booking a virtual consultation and get you started in the right direction.
Start with your Healthy Hair Care guide!
Is my hair gonna grow back?
Men experience hair loss and just shave their heads bald. They shave their heads bald, grow a beard and call it a look. Some men experience hair loss at a young age, but the stigma are them embracing it by shaving is much lower than it is for women.
Sad truth is, something like 50% of women will experience hair loss in some capacity. The reasons for the hair loss are vast and often times the same as it is for men. The difference, is that women tend to be more concerned about the hair loss.
The main question, when a woman begins losing hair is;
WILL IT GROW BACK???😩
This can be a difficult question to answer, as it is not as straight forward as most would like it to be.
It ALL depends on you!
Yikes! What does that mean? Here are the factors to consider when we are talking about regrowing hair:
1. Hair loss is a SYMPTOM, not a diagnosis. It is likely happening due to direct and indirect internal health issues. Hair loss is a sign that you need to dig deeper into your health. You can start to find out what’s going on by getting certain blood and mineral tests
2. Are your follicles scarring? If your follicles have scarred over(think of a cut that heals and leaves scar tissue) then hair cannot regrow. Sometimes there is a window for this, depending on what you’re dealing with.
3. How long has this been happening for? Time frame makes a big difference as well. If hair begins to fall, its possible that you’ve been experiencing a health issue(s) for at least 3 months beforehand. Time frame also gives us insight into possible regrowth.
4. What medications are you starting and stopping? Medications effect you internally. Your body looks for homeostasis(regulation) when introducing new medications or removing old ones, your body has to adjust. Sometimes this can cause temporary hair loss. Think birth control. That is the most common example for hair loss on medications.
5. Is it an auto-immune and/or inflammatory issue? Auto immune issues cause the body to attack itself. All cells are destroyed, even healthy ones. Hair starts as a cell and is not exempt to the attack. Autoimmune issues can cause scarring hair loss as well.
6. Stress management. This can be a broad term. But consider your every day life. Anxiety, depression and other mental health concerns. Also, think about sleep patterns, habits, coping mechanisms and over all food consumption. Find ways to activate the parasympathetic(rest, relax, digest) nervous system.
Find your balance to live less in fight or flight and more in rest and relax
7. Working with medical professionals you trust to help get to the root of the problem is imperative. As a certified trichologist, my job is to act as the look out and the bridge between your hair/scalp and your health.
Now that you have this info, when I say “it all depends on you” I mean, once you are informed of the state of your hair and scalp and have your next step, its up to you to get the process going. It can be scary, because once you dig, you may find more going on than you bargained for(incidental finds).
If you are working with me, I will help guide and inform you, but i cannot make you face the music. Hair loss is a very sensitive and personal issue and for many women it can make or break self esteem.
If you are experiencing hair loss, lets schedule a in depth hair loss consultation so we can start making positive changes in your hair and your life.
So you want long hair, huh?
The journey is not QUICK! It takes time and dedication to achieve results. The foundation for achieving length is the health and quality of the hair.
This is another reason why I suggest booking packages because it creates consistency and ease. Setting up each appointment with the special care and individualized treatment for your hair.
Do not take getting your hair cut lightly. Keeping the hair trimmed is another component to healthy hair. I do not usually suggest a general time frame for trims, because it depends on each client's lifestyle and normal hair habits.
I have a specific client I’ve been working with for about 3 and a half years now. She began her journey on a weekly basis. We started with a big chop and then for a while we had to trim often to stay ahead of the splitsville curve. As her hair grew and we got into a groove of how she wanted to manage her hair, style wise. At that point we maintained treatments at least once a month and trimmed as needed. This is what boosted her ability to retain length.
Her hair has gone from, just reaching the bottom of her earlobe(2017) to the middle of her back(present day)
Not everyone’s journey will look the same. The rate of hair growth needs to be taken into account. Ones health needs to be considered, home hair care habits and so on and so forth. This is why consultations are so important, to evaluate and properly present an approach that works for you.
Consultations are not just for new clients! Let me be your healthy hair guide. Consultations help everyone keep their HEALTHY hair goals up front.
What’s all that on your scalp?
What does scalp build up look like?
I posted this a while ago. This is a basic explanation for scalp care and build up. This is for my ladies that have fairly normal scalp issues. If you shampoo and then in a week(5-7 days) your scalp is itchy and perhaps mildly flaky, you probably need to take a look at what you’re using to shampoo.
Scalp care is different from hair care. And SOMETIMES certain hydrating/moisturizing shampoos can add to the problem. This is because the scalp needs different treatment from the hair.
Build up can come from product and the natural production oils and sweat. This can present as mild flaking. Nothing extreme, but perhaps noticeable enough to be a little uncomfortable. This is commonly mistaken for dry scalp.
To cleanse build up and relieve naturally oily scalp:
💜use a clarity shampoo at the scalp first(once or twice)-clarifying shampoo is a “grease buster”, if you will.
💜then use your balance wash
If you normally have an itchy scalp, try using a clarity shampoo first and then a soothing shampoo(think tea tree and peppermint)
Remember shampoo is for the scalp and conditioner is for the hair. If you apply conditioner and oils directly to the scalp you are increasing your chances of perpetual build up.
I will post more about specific scalp issues and what they may indicate soon.
here’s the video to explain the basics
The SilkOut System-How to Shampoo your hair
How to use the SILK OUT SYSTEM at home.
-Silk Out SERUM
I just want to outline a few tips for shampooing and caring for your hair.
• Always start with sections. It makes the whole process easier.
• Apply shampoo to the scalp and regrowth area.
• Scrub and massage shampoo at the scalp and regrowth area(do this within each section)
• Let the suds run down the ends of your hair but don’t scrub the ends to aggressively.
• Rinse shampoo
• Do the shampoo process up to 3 times. Clarity first, then the balance wash
• Apply conditioner to the mid shaft and ends of the hair(continuing with sections)
• Comb/brush conditioner through, thoroughly
• Let sit for 3-5min
• Rinse balance conditioner out of the hair all in one direction(continue with sections if necessary)
• After thoroughly rinsed, squeeze dry hair with towel (do not rub hair dry)
• Return to sectioning
• Apply serum to each section
• Comb through
• Blow dry OR apply styling cream
Whether you are shampooing weekly or bi-weekly, alternate the balance conditioner with a 1:1 mix of the KeraMask and Revive. A little goes a long way! Depending on the amount of hair you have.
• use a dime size of each(keramask and revive) for each section.
• Put in hand, emulsify together,
• then run through each section,
• then use your comb or brush to spread through thoroughly.
• Sit with a processing cap for 15-30 min
This is a deeper treatment options to help with balance and manageability.